I’m bothered by all the smack talk that’s been happening lately. By lately I mean the last multiple decades when it’s become acceptable to call women degrading names. In all honesty, I’ve participated in the name calling game, but not without remorse. I’ve always felt that if I use female degrading names it’s ok cuz I’m a woman. But men certainly CANNOT use it.
I’ve since changed my mind.
I’m tired of listening to reality TV shows in which beautiful young women who obviously don’t have any home training call each other bitches. People toss the word around as if it’s a compliment. And it’s not. If we don’t want men to call us bitches, why should we call each other that? I’ve gotten into arguments with men who have “called me out of my name”, as we used to say in the south. I’ve said: “how dare you speak to me like that?” followed by a string of equally biting curse words.
The Rush Limbaugh slut calling episode? That seemed to draw more attention to the idea that the intolerance of name calling has to stop. I knew it for sure when NPR did a piece on why the word slut caused such an outcry.
These names are degrading. They are dehumanizing. These words evoke an idea that women are (still) less important than men. A slut is the lowest of women and is about the worst word you can call a woman; with the exception of the “c” word (remember the funny moment from Sex and the City when Charlotte spells out C U Next Tuesday?).
Are we women still considered second class citizens? Is this what it all boils down to? Regardless of a woman’s sexual activity, which is no one’s business but the woman’s, a woman is still a person. A human being deserving at least the basic human dignities.
Regardless of who YOU are and your past mistakes, you do not have the right to call anyone names, let alone a woman. If you have lived your life perfectly 100% of the time then maybe I might consider you righteous enough to call someone a name but then again, no.
I guess Rush Limbaugh and Don Imus and every other man who has called a woman a degrading name must forget that they have mothers and sisters and grandmothers. How would they like it if one of the special women in their lives was called a slut or a nappy headed ho or a bitch? I guarantee they wouldn’t like it one bit. Now who’s acting like he has PMS?
So, when we women call each other the same names that men call us, we are affirming their mistaken belief that we agree with men that women are less than men.
And we aren’t.
Let’s get rid of the word slut, shall we?
Let’s start sending positive words to each other instead of hateful and degrading words.
Wow, you sure look good today. What a great smile you have!
I love how you look holding that laptop.
Look how great you wash dishes…
get it?
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I agree with you 100%. Women should use positive words to reinforce our wonderful qualities. There is a woman I know who refers to fellow women as “gals” and it always gets on my nerves. It makes me think of the time when a police officer called MLK Jr’s father a boy and MLK Sr replied, ” I am a man,” and pointing to his son, ” This is a boy.” Granted “gal” is not as bad as “slut,” “ho” or “bitch”, but still it bothers me.
Wow Pam! This is a great post. The words you mententioned and a few others need to be tossed in a pit and covered with dirt.
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agreed. racist and sexist words have no business on our planet.
I agree with you. I hate this about society. There is definitely a double standard here. I don’t usually use the word “slut”, although I have been known to say “whore”. Then again, I will also call a guy a “man whore”. Haha! I guess that might make me sound worse as in I judge everyone. I’m not sure.
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I can’t stand the word slut either!
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i’m not sure that any word is worse than any other. but at least we recognize how damaging the words are!
I can’t stand hearing these words either. Thanks for tossing it out there!
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Words. Their power is amazing. They can confer power or take it away. And when we use the word ‘slut’ or ‘bitch’ or other derogatory word, we as women are taking away our own power. Why would we want to do that? Recognizing what is happening is the first step, doing something about our own language is the next.
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YES. Nancy YES!