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the introvert thing

Someone gave DH (no, that does not stand for dick head) a book called the introvert advantage. He didn’t read it. I don’t blame him. I was initially irritated by the title of the book. Why? Cuz I’ll tell you. I thought to myself “there is NO advantage to being an introvert!” why? Cuz, I’m one. Don’t believe me? It’s true.  In my mind, introverts get walked on, get overlooked for dates, good jobs, promotions, parties, etc.  Introverts cant speak in public, get tongue tied talking to strangers, and hate parties.

To save my brain from having to recall introvert qualities, I found a site that lists them for me.  Marti Laney is author of the introvert advantage. She lists some interesting differences between introverts and extroverts here: http://www.theintrovertadvantage.com/being.html:

Introverts:
Enjoy time alone
Consider only deep relationships as friends
Feel drained after outside activities, even if they were fun
Good listener
Appear calm and self-contained
Think then speak or act
Extroverts:
Like to be in the thick of things
Relish variety
Know lots of people, considers lots of people friends
Enjoy chit-chatting, even to strangers
Feel stoked after activity
Speak or act then think OR think while speaking

Do you recognize yourself in any of these traits? I do.  I match all of the introvert traits above 100%!  The problem is, I like to be in the thick of things (I like to watch what’s going on) AND I relish variety. I get bored so very easily and I need to be able to do something different when I get ready.   Otherwise I am still an introvert. 

Ive been tested many times with the myers briggs type indicator (also found here: http://www.myersbriggs.org/my-mbti-personality-type/mbti-basics/) and I generally fall somewhere in the INTJ category. 

INTJ
Have original minds and great drive for implementing their ideas and achieving their goals. Quickly see patterns in external events and develop long-range explanatory perspectives. When committed, organize a job and carry it through. Skeptical and independent, have high standards of competence and performance – for themselves and others.

INTJ stands for introverted intuitive thinking judging. You can read more here if you want to: http://typelogic.com/intj.html.  Here are some famous INTJs: Susan B. Anthony, Lance Armstrong, Jane Austen, Dan Aykroyd,  Katie Couric, Rudy Giuliani, Peter Jennings, Michelle Obama, General Colin Powell, Hillary Clinton, Thomas Jefferson. John F. Kennedy.  Yeah I don’t believe some of them either. But whatever. I found it on the internets so it must be true, non?

All of INTJ descriptions are a pretty accurate description of me.  Ok so blah blah blah I’m an introvert. So what? Well, I realized in college that I was an introvert but that all the outgoing “kids” were the ones doing all the neat and cool activities and going to parties and dating neat boys and having lots of experiences that I wanted to have.  And…if you’re a reader of this here blog you’ll know that I’m an only child and do not have a problem working to get what I want. So, I looked at all the other “girls” and figured out what they had that I didn’t. Besides looks, of course. Can’t do much about what God gives you, can ya?  After my research I implemented it into action. I faked becoming an extrovert. And it worked!  While I am not a superstar celebrity or anything, I can act like I am.

I have faked being an extrovert for over 20 years now! People are truly surprised when I tell them that deep down inside (and at home with my husband) I’m an introvert who gets jazzed by quiet music and alone time.  How do you fake being an introvert? Well, its not easy, because it’s draining, to be sure. But here’s what I do: anytime I go somewhere I psyche myself up for the situation. I play some upbeat 80s music (like George Michael or duran duran) and I tell myself I can do IT (whatever it is).  Then I go out there and DO IT: I talk to strangers, I chat with the check out clerk. I smile at people when I’m out (except at the grocery store), I wave to babies, I coo at doggies, I try to get to know my co workers.  I volunteer for things.  I help people.  I crack jokes and crack wise.  I go to parties.

If you refer back to Marti Laney’s website (and I suppose book) about introverts you’ll see that much of what I described fits in with her description of the advantages of being an introvert.  She lists some famous introverts as: David Letterman, Johnny Carson, Diane Sawyer, Grace Kelly, and Glenn Close.

So, I guess there are some advantages to being an introvert. So I guess I don’t hafta fake being an extrovert anymore. Like nerds, my day has come.

How about you? Extrovert or Introvert? Why?

Regarding Queen of Everything

Her highness is still queen of planet blortnick and also a MODEL.

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